Social clubs are a prominent part of the ACU culture. Students invest time, emotion and money to experience the community and spirit that come with becoming a member of a social club. They also agree to accept the possible disappointment of rejection the day they don’t receive their bids.
From an outsider’s point of view, social clubs seem to be a rewarding experience as members create memories and form bonds that last even after college is over.Â Grubs and socials are exciting for the students involved, and they represent the effort and commitment of students and leaders within each group.
However, it seems positive – and negative – experiences make it easy to be consumed by the whirlwind of pledging activities, and it becomes easy for students to lose perspective and balance in their effort to enjoy this new period of their lives.
Small gatherings of extremely excited and equally heartbroken women convened with bids in hand at their club’s chosen meeting place when rushing hopefuls became “Nunu’s” and “Squigs” Thursday night. Some ran and hugged each other in relief, while others seemed less enthusiastic about the results.
It is apparent from these encounters, and from speaking with friends who are looking forward to pledging, clubs can easily influence a person’s conception of his own value and worth, whether a club extended or refused him a bid.
We encourage students to balance pledging and outside life as this new journey begins.
Social clubs are a great way to become involved, create friendships and be a part of a community of people who share a common interest. However, when it starts to define someone’s feelings of self-worth and belonging, students should be reminded to think of pledging in the context of a lifetime of other priorities and commitments.
You might not have received a bid to the club you hoped for; you may not have received a bid at all. Or you still may be reveling in the excitement of being accepted. Just remember to maintain perspective as the thrilling, yet emotionally and physically draining events of pledging begin. As you laugh and roll your eyes at ridiculous pledging requests and matching outfits, remember you are not defined by a club. Social clubs are a way to enhance your college experience, but they are not the answer to the question of the meaning of life – or even college.