The Optimist
  • Home
  • About
    • Advertise
    • Policies
    • Staff Contacts
    • Jobs
  • News
  • Sports
  • Opinion
    • Columns
    • Editorials
  • Multimedia
    • Photo Galleries
    • Videos
  • Features
  • Print Edition
    • The Pessimist
    • Special Projects
  • Police Log
  • Classifieds
You are here: Home / Opinion / Columns / Crushed by @anonymity

Crushed by @anonymity

October 10, 2013 by Mandy Lambright

It’s time we had a serious conversation about the Twitter epidemic plaguing our university: ACU Crushes.

Now, don’t get me wrong. I’m all for social media. I think it’s the bee’s knees, the cream of the crop and the cheese to America’s macaroni. But seriously?

With all of the unnecessary ACU Twitter parodies flying around (I’m talking to you, @GATAFountain), the last thing we need is an outlet for students to send anonymous love letters riddled with bad grammar and overused hashtags.

It’s amusing to see the stream of names and comments coming in from all corners of campus. And I think some kudos are in order. First, a shout out to Nik Grau. The ladies love you. Number 43 on the field, number one in their hearts. Gwin boys, congratulations on having the whole family represented in fangirl tweets. (Don’t worry, Micah Reeves. You’re included in this one.) And props to Lexi French, for being some serious wife material. Ladies, take note.

That being said, you gain nothing by sending in your 140-character “Dear Johns.” At the end of the day, you’re still anonymous. Until you speak up with your own voice, you will continue to be invisible.

This is a campus full of young adults. We have been through years of English classes, grammar lessons and vocabulary quizzes. We have done our fair share of group projects, class presentations and speeches. Schools are teaching us from knee-high-to-a-grasshopper how to speak in society. And, apart from the occasional private school attendee or homeschooler, we are not foreign to co-ed activities.

So, please explain to someone who has taken these lessons to heart and finds merit in face-to-face interactions, what’s with all the anonymity? How many love stories began with, “Well I sent her an anonymous message on Twitter?” None.

Gentlemen, Romeo didn’t send Juliet a carrier pigeon with a letter saying, “You look beautiful from outside your window. Love, Anonymous.” He scaled walls just to speak to her. In The Notebook, Noah didn’t just stare at Allie from afar, chatting with his friends about her great assets. He dangled from a ferris wheel to get her attention. If they can face imminent danger for love, you can walk across the Bean and introduce yourself to the pretty girl from your psych class.

Ladies, we aren’t off the hook either. We all saw Up. Ellie made the first move on Carl, and thus was born one of the most beautiful love stories ever to be told during the opening credits. Now, I’m not saying you have to be as forward. (It’s not as cute when you have all of your teeth, and I don’t think we could pull off the aviator cap like she does.) But put yourself out there. Dip your toe in the water.

It’s time to put down the phones and pick up the pieces of a society clinging to anonymity like the baby blanket that we outgrew years ago. Step outside of your comfort zone. And for Pete’s sake, stop with all of the #marrymes. Nobody likes a beggar.

Filed Under: Columns, Opinion Tagged With: Archive, Social Media

Other Opinion:

  • Online classes are not as effective as they seem

  • Athletes today face pressure from every angle

  • A strong March jobs report, but a slower path for new graduates

About Mandy Lambright

You are here: Home / Opinion / Columns / Crushed by @anonymity

Other Opinion:

  • Online classes are not as effective as they seem

  • Athletes today face pressure from every angle

  • A strong March jobs report, but a slower path for new graduates

Follow us online

  • Facebook
  • Instagram
  • Twitter
  • YouTube

Optimist on Twitter

acuoptimist The Optimist @acuoptimist ·
22 Apr

NEWS: Students can now vote for the 2026 Mr. ACU and Miss ACU. The link to vote can be found through an email sent out by the Student Government Association.

Reply on Twitter 2046989639165042798 Retweet on Twitter 2046989639165042798 1 Like on Twitter 2046989639165042798 Twitter 2046989639165042798
acuoptimist The Optimist @acuoptimist ·
29 Mar

Sing Song 2026 Awards Class Division:

Overall Award:
1. Mixed
2. Seniors
3. Freshman White

Reply on Twitter 2038098756579508469 Retweet on Twitter 2038098756579508469 Like on Twitter 2038098756579508469 2 Twitter 2038098756579508469

Optimist on Facebook

The Optimist updated their status.

2 days ago

The Optimist

This content isn't available right now

When this happens, it's usually because the owner only shared it with a small group of people, changed who can see it or it's been deleted.
View on Facebook
· Share

Share on Facebook Share on Twitter Share on Linked In Share by Email

The Optimist

2 weeks ago

The Optimist
Click the link in our bio to nominate a graduating senior for the Optimist to feature in our print issue. ... See MoreSee Less

Video

View on Facebook
· Share

Share on Facebook Share on Twitter Share on Linked In Share by Email

Videos

Optimist Newscast Feb. 28, 2024

Our top stories today include a recap of The Musical Comedy Murders of 1940, the ... [Read More…]

  • Optimist Newscast Feb. 21, 2024
  • Optimist Newscast Feb. 14, 2024
  • Optimist Newscast Jan. 24, 2024

Latest Photos

  • Home
  • About
    • Contact
    • Subscribe
    • Policies
    • Advertising Policy
    • Letters to the Editor and Reader Comments
  • News
  • Sports
  • Opinion
    • Columns
    • Editorials
  • Multimedia
    • Videos
    • Photo Galleries
  • Features
  • Advertise
    • Paid Advertisement
  • Police Log

© 2026 ACU Optimist · All Rights Reserved